The personality Dot is fascinating, as it seems to be the effort of our True Self to have a safe identity out in the world. Born into families and cultures with values, and certain behaviors and feelings that are affirmed, we as clever little tykes quickly figure how to get our needs met by developing certain identities. Below is a list of common identities we can use:
Why is understanding your Acting Identity important? Because even though you bring the gift of yourself somewhere in the role, there are automatic reactions from the chosen identity that keep you from really connecting to others and feeling the kind of joy we usually reserve for celebrations and special occasions.
For instance, if you are the Angry One you tend to attack and push your energy/opinions forward or if you’re the Easy Going One you may withhold/withdraw and even though these actions keep you safe in the short run, they don’t make for respectful connections that bring the sense of being understood and loved – because your heart is not open.
So a braveheart for the Angry One: take a deep breath (Holy Spirit time) and truly listen, or for the Easy Going One: take a deep breath (equally Holy Spirit time) and put some words out there. True actions open opportunities for true interactions, and love is found in that space between.
Ever notice how rare it is to find someone who speaks truth in a kind way? Many of us have to be worked up to spout off the truth, and then in ways that are not helpful.
Truth alone can be brutal Kindness alone can be people pleasing
TRUTH baked in the oven of KINDNESS can be digested and used to nourish.
And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us… profoundly grateful for the gift of Love, God in human form – Jesus. Also grateful for the second best Christmas gift ever, Baby Kloey.
Her first time parents are learning team work at 3:00am, swaddling like the pros and what all the different squeaks and noises mean. Such a bundle of love, such a precious life that connects us all to new life.
Merry Christmas to each of you and all those dear to you!
LIGHT. What would we do without it?
- The people which sat in darkness saw great light; and to them which sat in the region and shadow of death light is sprung up.
- Then spoke Jesus again to them, saying, I am the light of the world: whoever follows me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.
- You are the light of the world. A city that is set on an hill cannot be hid.
- Let your light so shine before others, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
The following post beautifully describes waiting for the light after the longest night of the year… thank you Moon of Aran Designs.