WELCOME to Relationships, Connect the Dots!
Have you ever thought:
- I love my job, it’s the people I work with that drive me crazy
- What’s the point of my job/ life/ success if there is no one to share it with?
- Am I different? Why don’t I fit in?
- Life is good but I’d like… amazing, and want to look forward to the next phase, stage, adventure!
- Why can those you love most – hurt you most?
Relationships are like Dicken’s intro in Tale of Two Cities, they can be “the best of times and also the worst of times”, they can bring out our best wisdom and highlight our worst foolishness… why do close relationships have to be such a struggle? In a word, CONFLICT.
We all have a need to
Why is this seesaw such a precarious place for lovers, friends and family systems? In a word, COMMUNICATION. How do we share our needs and wants with respect for ourselves and others?
There are many who study the art and science of communication, Harville Hendrix, Ph.D & Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph.D., Terrence Real, Founder of Relational Life Institute, Dr. John Gottman & Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman with their Love Lab in Seattle, and Deborah Tannen, Ph.D. to name a few favorites, as well as Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend who write, coach and teach about Bonding (close and connected) and Boundaries (separate and independent) in their many books and workshops. Each has something unique to bring to the discussion while all have themes in common – how do we communicate love and respect? Why is it so difficult to listen to different points of view? How can we enjoy our own space and stay connected? Why is what we say often not what the other hears? These are some of the questions that this blog will explore.
MS in Marriage & Family Therapy,
Board Certified Christian Life Coach (BCCLC)
B.A. in Psychology, University of Washington
Masters of Science in Marriage & Family Therapy, Seattle Pacific University
Crisis and Trauma Workshops including CISM Crisis Debriefing, clinical experience with individuals, couples, families and therapy groups, grief support group leader, techniques for releasing anxiety and fear, soul healing prayer, addictions and recovery issues along with resolving challenges within the family system.
Married over 30 years with 4 lively young adult children and both sides of our extended families in the Northwest, lots of opportunities to show love and respect, to practice forgiveness and understanding.