When answering the age-old question, “Who am I?”, we find there are different roles in different relationships (friend, daughter/son, boss, neighbor, in law, etc), and we even have different parts within ourselves. Have you ever felt, “part of me wants to do this, but part of me doesn’t”?
We each have different parts, different aspects of our personalities. In future blogs, I will explore some of the wonderful assessments that help define who we are and are not by how we learn and love, and what we value and want out of life. My favorites include the Myers-Briggs, which gives a framework of the four main temperament types, the Love Language test with the 5 ways we give and receive love, and the Enneagram a tool that highlights 9 different points of view and underlying values.
But today I want to focus on some of the Parts we each carry with us, like the Creative part, the Judging part, the Responsible part, the Loyal to family/tradition part and the Loving part. You might notice when next you’re clicking on all cylinders, lost in doing something that really engages you – that would be your Creative part. How about the times you feel ‘you should exercise’ (or stop eating, go to bed, not argue…), that would be your Responsible part speaking up. When you are hard on yourself, or feel let down or betrayed, most likely your Judging part is in the control room. When you feel life is worth living, or can see the other’s point of view, feel compassion or gratitude or connection – your Loving part is humming along.
For example, my Creative Part loves to learn and share stories like with this Blog, my Judging part would keep reviewing and editing the Post and perhaps never hit ‘publish’, my Responsible part wants to commit to some type of regular sharing, my Loyal to family tradition part is nervous when I talk about anything that invites conflict and my Loving part appreciates the opportunity to connect and share ideas of the mind, places in the heart and the mystery of the spirit with others.
Living and interacting in the workplace, at home and with friends, notice which part of you is most engaged. When you’re at your best, which part of you is stepping forward? When do others connect with you? Which part of you is rewarded, in which situations? Each part is important and tells us something about ourselves.
Next week – moving towards change, and how these different parts can gang up and make new action steps feel like mission impossible.